Cuddling might be key secret to a long and healthy relationship for men, say researchers from the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University in Bloomington.
“Contrary to some stereotypes, the most appealing behaviours, even for men, are romantic and affectionate behaviours,” said lead author Debby Herbenick adding : “These included kissing more often during sex, cuddling, saying sweet/romantic things during sex, making the room feel romantic in preparation for sex, and so on.”
For the staudy published in journal PLOS One, researchers studied more than 1,000 heterosexual couples from the US, Brazil, Germany, Japan, and Spain who were in relationships for an average of 25 years.
The study’s participants, who were between the ages of 40 and 70, filled out a gender-specific questionnaire on sex and relationship-related topics that the researchers assured them would not be shared with their partner.
In addition, they investigated the level of appeal of nearly 50 sexual behaviours. They found that many have engaged in a wide variety of behaviours and that some are fairly common. They also noted that although many men and women rated a range of sexual behaviours as appealing and may have tried them in the distant past, fewer engaged in them in the past month or year.
One stereotype-shattering result — that men may not want to share with their partners — was that frequent kissing or cuddling predicted relationship happiness for men but not for women.
Other surprising findings include men were more likely to say they were happy in their relationship than women, and men said it was important that their partners experienced an orgasm during sex.
“We know from other research that being in a long-term relationship has some value to health,” study author Dr. Julia Heiman, director of The Kinsey Institute said in a written statement.
“Perhaps we can learn more about what makes relationships both sustainable and happy.”
This research has many implications for the future understanding of adult sexual behaviours. Sexuality educators, clinicians as well as people in the general population will now have a better understanding of the prevalence and diversity of sexual behaviours experienced by adults in the US general population.Follow @gorkhapost